Fertility & Becoming a Mother

Whether, When, and How

Deciding whether, when, and how to become a mother isn’t always straightforward. For some women, the desire to have children has never been in question. For others, the decision is far less certain. And knowing what you want doesn’t necessarily mean knowing how to get there.

You may be considering motherhood on your own, navigating infertility or fertility treatments, exploring adoption or surrogacy, or questioning whether you want children at all. Perhaps you’re navigating these decisions with a partner whose hopes, ideas, or timeline don’t quite match your own.

The Life You Imagined

Questions about motherhood often bring up larger questions about identity, relationships, expectations, and the future. What do you want your life to look like? How much of that picture is yours, and how much comes from what you’ve always assumed or been told?

There may be excitement and hope, but also uncertainty, fear, grief, or ambivalence. Sometimes all at once.

Sometimes the challenge is making a decision. Other times, it’s coming to terms with circumstances that have changed your options, or grieving a future that may look different from the one you imagined.

Therapy is a place to examine these questions, understand what’s influencing your choices, and figure out how to move forward in a way that feels right for you.